It’s Movember folks! Movember and No-Shave November are two great causes which help to raise awareness of critical men’s health issues such as prostate and testicular cancer, as well as suicide and depression.
Apart from the obvious benefits of getting blokes talking about the issues that affect them the most, this month is a great time to ditch the razor and let the beard roam free. We here at Bored Panda decided to ask our bros to send in their pics from their own beard journeys, and we were overwhelmed by the response!
Scroll down to check out the transformations from baby-face to lumberjack below. Let us know which do you prefer in the comments and submit a photo of your makeover if you qualify!
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WILMINGTON, North CarolinaA dozen voters assembled here for a focus group on President Trumps first year give him credit for a good economy and a robust stock market. Having said that, they used the forum to let loose with their condemnation of the tweeter-in-chief and the many ways he has embarrassed them.
It was a tough assessment, and the most stinging critique came from those in the group who had voted for Trump, with Republican women serving up the harshest words, saying he hasnt delivered on his promises, and hes crude and bullying.
I feel like he told people that he had all these big ideas and big plans, and it just seems to kind of roll to something else, said Emily Bell, a 32-year-old occupational therapist. Its like nothing is ever accomplished.
Annie Anthony, 56, who runs a small nonprofit, said, Hes embarrassed me by his behavior I cant imagine how they let him build a country club, let alone be in one. Because adults dont behave that way. She doesnt mind the tweets but wishes he would elevate his language.
He uses words like sad and badthats first-grade language. Were an intelligent population who elected you. Represent us!
There was only one staunch Trump supporter in the group, Cynthia Layton, a 64-year-old nurse, who loves the tweets. Thats how I hear from him… I dont need an elitist person talking down to me.
Layton says she doesnt trust the media, and she turned off her cable 10 years ago. She draws inspiration from Rush Limbaugh. I read my sites. I listen to his tweets, she says, which are simply what he honestly feels because he uses white and black language and doesnt give you all these flowery descriptions about everything. I appreciate that hes direct and tells it like it is.
The focus group on Wednesday evening was organized in collaboration with Emory University, and almost half the two hours focused on the opioid crisis, which everyone agreed is a huge problem. A 47-year-old single man described as a self-employed handyman said he had lost eight friends in the last six months, all to heroin, a stunning statement that prompted a round of personal stories.
Wilmington is the center of a growing addiction rehabilitation industry, and many who come for treatment relapse and stay. The group blamed pharmaceutical companies for downplaying the addictive potential of opioids, and doctors for peddling them. The word kickbacks came up repeatedly as the group discussed their ready availability.
I have Obamacare and Im grateful for it, but theyre slashing this and slashing that, and Im afraid that I might lose my health care, said Annie Anthony, who is divorced and voted for Trump. Like almost everyone in the room, she knows people grappling with addiction. Without insurance, people wont be able to pay for treatment, so they wont get to go. Youve got to pay like 24 grand upfront for some of these programs.
At the end of the session, Hart said to Anthony, Im not sure why you voted for Donald Trump. You would be an ideal person to explain to Donald Trump, heres why Ive been with you, and heres why Im not with you. Youve moved a long way since the election.
Anthony responded with a story of how she was driving an Uber one night and had one of Democratic leader Chuck Schumers assistants in her car. He was going to Jacksonville, which was a 90-minute drive, so there was plenty of time to talk, and he asked her the same question.Because of abortionand Benghazi, she replied. He was going to try to not have as many abortions, and I didnt see her as telling the truth with Benghazi.
Earlier in the discussion, Anthony had said, I expect our embassies to be safe, and she [Clinton] let our people down.
My kids think Im a confused Democrat, but Im actually a weak Republican, she said. Shes worried that her health insurance premiums will go so high she wont be able to afford to see a doctor.
These are the people Trump is losing, but predicting where they will land next politically is complicated. If the swamp is still full, Ill be voting to empty that swamp some more, Anthony said. And that doesnt mean Ill be voting for a Republican or a Democrat. Its going to be based on their behavior and whether I found them trustworthy.
The antipathy toward Hillary Clinton is so strong that it keeps voters in the Trump camp. Asked for a word or phrase to describe Clinton, there was a string of invectives: crook and thief and sore loser, someone who cant be trusted and who thinks the rules dont apply to her.
Michael Leimone, 41, a cook at a local pizza restaurant, is disappointed in Trump, but doesnt regret his vote. He calls Trump a loose cannon, but insists, Its still better than having the career politician in there.
The Russia probe never came up. Trumps vulnerability with these voters is health care. It came up a lot. They know whos doing the slashing, and theyll know who to blame when those premium hikes hit.
Your ambition and your strong work ethic are two of your best characteristics, but the way you’ll fall in love in 2018 is by meeting someone who reminds you that there is so much life to be lived of work. They’ll be 100% supportive of your career and your goals, and will only cheer you on rather than getting in your way – but they will also remind you that it’s important to look up from your screen, open your eyes, experience the world around you, and remember that work is important, but so are things like family, friendships, self-care, joy, and silliness.
You will fall in love unexpectedly – with a person you were never initially into but who, with a relaxed confidence, slowly garnered your interest. It will be someone who enjoyed your bright and sparkling disposition from the start, but who also challenged you to open up further for once, and encouraged you to not be afraid to let go and simply let yourself fall.
You’ll fall in love in 2018 when you meet someone who finally takes care of you for once. You’re always the one putting everybody first, taking care of everyone else, and never using a spare moment to think about yourself or to prioritize your own needs. So when you meet that person who sees you as someone they want to make happy and take care of and do things for – instead of looking at you as what you can do for them – you’re going to fall hard, and you’re going to fall fast.
As someone who is really in tune with your own emotions and of what you want, you’re going to find yourself in a relationship with someone who makes you feel like you no longer have to apologize for having strong feelings. In the past, you’ve always felt a little self-conscious of how open and certain you were about yourself and your wants, but in 2018, you’ll finally find yourself with someone who loves that about you, and who makes you feel more like yourself than you ever have with anyone else.
As someone who is highly motivated, focused, and constantly on the go, you always have a list a mile long of things you want to do, places you want to travel, goals you want to accomplish. But in 2018, you’re going to fall in love with someone who actually decreases your restlessness, instead of making it worse. In the past, you’ve always felt weighed down or held back by significant others – worrying that they’re going to keep you from moving forward or distract you from your goals. But this person is going to be the one who finally makes you feel like you have both – like you can be your own version of ‘settled down’ where you’re in love and have a partner and are incredibly happy, while still growing and challenging yourself and pursuing new things every day.
In 2018, you’ll finally find yourself in that relationship you’ve always wanted – with the person who is sensitive and loving and gentle, without ever making you feel bored or disinterested or antsy. They’re going to be someone who understands that despite your great sense of humor, you can also be really sensitive and feel hurt very easily; and they’re going to be someone who makes you feel like you could talk to them about absolutely anything without the conversation ever growing dull or colorless.
As friendly and magnetic as you are, and as effortlessly as you make friends, you actually have a very hard time opening up and making yourself available for romantic relationships. So in 2018, the way you’ll fall in love is by meeting someone you never expected to fall for – but who ends up totally fascinating you with their ability to make you feel instantly comfortable and to only ever feel energized and invigorated around them (rather than exhausted or socially tired).
You will end up with a person who actually stands up to you and doesn’t let you get away with everything. They will understand that you have a natural lean towards leadership and confidence, and they will both love this and respect it; but they will also call you out when you need to be called out, and they will stand up for themselves, and they will always make sure the relationship is 50-50 rather than allowing it to be something where you run the show.
In 2018, you will fall in love with someone who makes you more emotional than you’ve ever been with anyone else (but in a way). In the past, your sense of self-preservation has lead you to be detached from and/or critical of your significant others – always subconsciously looking for ways to chase them away before you have a chance to truly get attached. But in 2018, you’ll fall for someone who makes you willing to take risks and makes you to not be afraid of your own feelings – because being with them will wake you up and make you feel so alive.
As someone who is very self-possessed and has a health sense of self-esteem, you will find yourself with someone who only makes you feel more and more like yourself, instead of making you feel like you’re losing your sense of self by being with them. They will encourage you to do your own thing, to have your own life outside of them, and to figure out how the two of you can be a team together while also putting in time to figure out who you are as individuals.
In 2018, you will fall in love with a person who truly feels on your level. You’ve always had a fast mind with a lot of ideas, and have struggled in the past to learn how to let another person in because you’ve been protective of your sense of self. But this person will finally feel like someone who can keep up with you – somebody who can handle your energy, who gets you without you having to explain yourself, and who fully loves you without being dependent and totally reliant on you.
In the new year, you will fall in love with a person who bursts through your tendency to think and love in a very controlled and logical way – and someone who turns your world upside down in the best way. They will adore your sense of humor and will always give you the space you need, but they will also show you how to live in the moment, they will never be intimidated by your temper, and they will show you how to think with your gut and your heart instead of only relying on your brain.
Why Copay-Free Birth Control Is So Important For My Health, Profession, & Wealth
Today, as I do every three months, I went to my local pharmacy to pick up my birth control. As I walked up to the counter, I let out a sigh relief that I didn’t have to open my wallet to receive my chosen form of contraception. This is all thanks to the birth control benefit included in the Affordable Care Act, which designated birth control as preventive health care and made all FDA-approved contraceptives copay-free with insurance.
I am one of the more than 62.4 million women across the country who have access to copay-free birth control because of this benefit. But in October, President Trump rolled back this copay-free birth control coverage, immediately allowing any company or university to deny birth control coverage if it conflicts with “religious” or “moral” beliefs. While I don’t believe my employer will take away my birth control coverage, thousands of other women will not be so lucky. And President Trump’s actions could cost these women hundreds, if not thousands, of dollars each year — the cost of trying to have control over their own futures.
I started taking birth control nine years ago when I was a college student. College was a turning point in my life — I was investing in my future and excited for what it might hold. I wanted to put preventative measures in place that would allow me to concentrate on my education. Nine years later, my birth control has given me peace of mind to know that I have control over one part of my life. I’ve been in a committed relationship for almost 13 years and we’ve always known that we both have goals we want to achieve before taking the next step to have a family.
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Trust me when I say that finding the best birth control for me wasn’t easy. Staying away from the pill (I knew I could not for the life of me remember to take a pill every day), I ultimately landed on the NuvaRing, which I’ve been using ever since.
Right now at 26, I’m able to focus on developing my career and saving for retirement. I’m building an “emergency” savings account to ensure I have funds available in case I lose my job or get sick. I want the peace of mind in knowing I won’t have to struggle to support myself.
Not only has having copay-free birth control allowed me to control my life, it’s helped my bank account. Over the last five years since the birth control benefit was put in place, I’ve saved almost $125 each month and nearly $1,000 in 2017 alone. I use what I’ve saved from birth control to increase my “emergency” fund, invest in my future, and expand my horizons through my favorite hobby: travel.
— NAPAWF (@NAPAWF) November 15, 2017
Without copay-free protection, the cost for my annual birth control is nearly equal to one month’s rent. My Nuvaring is the same cost as a monthly MetroCard that gets me to and from work. And for low income families, paying for birth control could mean skipping a meal here and there.
Why are we putting women and their families in the position to choose between two things they need to succeed?
Copay-free birth control should be a standard benefit for women across the country. It’s mind boggling that the Trump administration would create loopholes for any company to deny birth control coverage to their employees when contraception has been such an important benefit to our economy, our society, and our families.
Women should be making our own healthcare decisions. Not our bosses and not our government. That’s why I’m joining women across the country to stand against President Trump’s efforts to roll back women’s health. We will fight back.
The decline in EU nurses and midwives wanting to work in the UK since the referendum is continuing, figures show.
The trend was first noticed earlier this year, and now a new batch of figures released by the Nursing and Midwifery Council have reinforced the idea that Brexit is having an impact.
In September the register showed just over 36,200 EU nurses and midwives – over 2,700 less than a year before.
But ministers said a rise in training places would compensate for the drop.
That will take some time to start having an impact though, and union leaders believe the government in England may struggle to fill these places as they have removed bursaries for nursing degrees and introduced fees.
What do these figures show?
The data released by the Nursing and Midwifery Council (NMC) cover the number of nurses and midwives registered to work in the UK, not the numbers actually working.
Rises in the numbers of nurses and midwives leaving the register was seen among all types of staff – those trained in the UK, in the EU and in the rest of the world.
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But what marked the EU trend out was the rate of change being seen.
There was a 67% rise in the number of EU nurses and midwives leaving the register in the 12 months up to September compared to the same period the year before.
By comparison the number of UK-trained staff leaving the register rose by less than 10%.
That rise in leavers was off-set by just over 1,000 new joiners from the EU, but that in itself was an 89% drop in the numbers who signed up the year before.
The NMC pointed out this change in new joiners was also likely to have been influenced by the introduction of English language testing around the same time as the Brexit vote in the summer of 2016.
Overall, the number of nurses and midwives on the register has started to drop for the first time in a decade.
There were just under 690,000 nurses and midwives registered to work in the UK in September – over 1,600 less than there were the year before.
This comes at a time when unions report there are significant shortages in the number of nurses employed by the NHS.
Research by the Royal College of Nursing (RCN) said there were over 40,000 unfilled vacancies – one in nine posts.
Trend causing concern
The NMC said the rising numbers leaving the profession across the board was “worrying” and needed to be responded to.
An ageing workforce, which is seeing growing numbers reach retirement age, and the pressures of working in the health service have been cited as factors for UK-trained nurses leaving the register.
RCN general secretary Janet Davies said it was “no surprise” EU nurses were also turning their backs on the UK given what was happening with Brexit.
“These alarming new figures represent a double whammy for the NHS and patients.”
But the Department of Health played down the significance of the overall drop, pointing out it represented a “mere” 0.2% fall in the numbers registered to work.
A spokeswoman said the number of training places would increase by 25% in the coming years and that ministers had been “very clear” that EU nationals would remain a valued part of the workforce after Brexit.
Read more: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-41838426
Before I ever spent hour upon hour with my nose buried in the pages of a “Harry Potter” book, there was “Matilda.”
I’ve always loved to read and have hauled too-big piles of books home from the library (although not in a red wagon, I will admit) more times than I can count. Plus, what 7-year-old budding queer femme doesn’t dream of discovering a secret superpower and running away from her loneliness into a beautiful world of friendship where she can play games and eat cookies all day long?
I mean, it always seemed like a pretty solid life choice to me. Matilda has followed me ever since childhood. And I’m not necessarily talking about the Danny DeVito movie or even the Roald Dahl book. I’m talking about Matilda herself; Matilda the person; Matilda Wormwood, the character made real by a young girl in a 98-minute-long movie I’d wager nearly every millennial (in the U.S., at least) has seen. I’m talking about Mara Wilson.
It felt like fate that Wilson and I would meet.
She went to college with one of my family members and, once I moved back to New York, kept showing up at various comedy events I attended around the city.
Then, in early 2017 — after coming out publicly the previous summer — she became a Lambda Legal donor. These aren’t even all the connections we’ve had over the years. But ultimately, I knew that it was only a matter of time.
So when we sat down to talk last week, to say that I was excited might be an understatement. Little did I know just how much her own experience as a queer woman would mirror mine.
Wilson came out publicly as bi — although she now tends to prefer the label queer (“I like queer more than I like bisexual, but I have no problem with people calling me bisexual,” she says) — on Twitter in the wake of June 2016’s tragedy at the Pulse Nightclub in Orlando. At the time, she’d recently come out to most of her close friends and family (they took it well — her brother “did not even look up from his enchilada” when she told him, she tells me through laughter), and she felt that it was important as someone in the public eye to show solidarity with her community.
The news quickly went viral, spreading across social media and trending on Facebook. “I think that if you’re in a place of security and privilege — which I can admit that I am — it’s important for you to [come out],” she says. “I don’t see myself as anybody’s savior, but I’d rather it were me — who can afford therapy and afford this platform — getting harassed for being who I am than a young LGBTQ kid. I think it’s important.”
But the response to her news — while mostly supportive — was not entirely positive.
“I often wish that I hadn’t done it then because I got accused of taking advantage of a tragedy for personal attention,” she says. “Now, clearly I like attention, but I am not so callous as to make a tragedy about myself, my life and my story. That isn’t what I was going for.”
“A lot of people like to tell women — and especially queer women — that they are doing things for attention,” she adds. “And it is strange to me that the worst thing a woman can do is do something for attention.”
Wilson’s words resonated with me more than I can even fully describe. I’ve written about what it’s like to come out and be out as a queer femme woman before but have never really been able to put into words the intense anxiety surrounding the “attention stigma” that comes with having a non-monosexual identity.
See, a few things can happen when you come out as bi (or queer or pan or any of the many varied non-monosexual identities that exist), particularly as a woman.
The first is that folks don’t believe you. Another is that people ignore it. And a third is that a lot of assumptions are made about who you are and what you like.
But the theme underlying all of these reactions is attention. If someone doesn’t believe you, it’s because either they think that bisexuality doesn’t exist or that you’re confused, or they think that you’re saying you’re bi to get attention (frequently all of these thoughts occur synchronously).
If someone ignores it, it’s — again — because they likely believe you’re “doing it for the attention” and don’t want to give you the thing they think you’re seeking. And if someone begins to make assumptions about you, those assumptions are usually — surprise — that you like attention and are innately promiscuous.
“There’s definitely a stigma,” Wilson says. “One of the reasons I didn’t come out for a very long time was because I grew up hearing that bisexual girls were ‘crazy,’ [which is not a term I would use]. I heard that all the time. I heard that bisexual girls were ‘crazy,’ they were greedy, they were selfish and they caused drama. They were the worst. They wanted attention.”
There’s a lot here, but certainly the most interesting (to me, at least) thing about biphobia is the sexism, slut shaming, ableism and mental health stigma that is disguised within it.
“Throughout history, women and women-identified people have had to struggle to get any kind of power or control over their lives,” Wilson says. “And control is seen as a bad thing. It’s seen as being manipulative.”
“When you think of bisexuals, you think of villainy. You think of people using their sexuality to get what they want, using other people and hurting other people,” she adds. “Or just having a lot of sex, and … if you are ‘promiscuous,’ that is seen as being inherently a bad thing.”
Just think of Jenny from “The L Word,” Barbara from “Gotham,” Piper from “Orange Is the New Black,” and Monica from “Shameless.” The list goes on, and this is certainly not a trope limited to only women. But all of these fictional women hold the labels of evil, “crazy,” or promiscuous.
And that’s not even to wade into the deep stigmatized waters of being a person who is bisexual and not a woman. Though we didn’t talk much about it (as it is neither of our experiences) being transgender or gender-nonconforming obviously brings with it its own set of stigma, and similar — albeit similarly nuanced — stereotypes exist for male-identified people. As Wilson says, “People are punished for femininity or punished for sexuality.”
So how do we go about changing these media tropes? Wilson has some ideas.
“I think that, in the entertainment world, there need to be more bisexual characters for whom bisexuality is just kind of a common thing. It’s ‘so-and-so has red hair and they’re also bisexual,'” Wilson laughs. “That’s definitely something that I’ve tried to write into some of my more recent writing. We’ll see where that goes.”
“The Most Boring Bisexual You’ve Ever Met,” I joke with her. “Exactly!” she exclaims. “It’ll be like, ‘Me the other day, getting up and running on the treadmill, writing a little bit and going to CVS to pick up my prescriptions, and then binge-watching ‘Orphan Black’ because I love Tatiana Maslany so much.'”
“I’d like to see more male-identified people shown as bisexual,” she adds. “Because I think there’s still this belief that men can’t be, which just isn’t true.”
In the end, Wilson believes it’s all about respecting others — an issue the LGBTQ community at large has much experience with.
“Is it making somebody happy? Is it improving their life? Is it something that they enjoy? Is it a part of who they are? Yes? Then respect it,” she says. “You don’t need to understand something completely to be OK with it.”
Wilson and I spent about an hour talking, and I could’ve let it go on for so much longer. We joked about our celebrity crushes, chuckled together fake-writing scenes of “The Most Boring Bisexual You’ve Ever Met,” and gave each other advice for meeting other queer women. I’ll never forget that. It felt like I was catching up with an old friend. And in a way, I was.
This story first appeared on Lambda Legal and is reprinted here with permission.
If you consider your pets as family members, you’ll agree that their health and well-being are top priorities.
But as diligent as you may be about making sure they’re happy and healthy, they can’t outright tell you when they aren’t feeling their best. That’s why it’s so important to watch out for symptoms that may indicate bigger problems. If your cats or dogs are experiencing any of the 10 warning signs below, it’s definitely a good idea to take them to the vet.
1. If your cat or dog uncharacteristically starts having accidents in the house and drinks much more than usual, it may be a sign of diabetes, liver disease, kidney disease, or adrenal gland disease. Alternatively, if they’re urinating much less frequently than normal, they could be dealing with a urinary tract problem or bladder stones. All of these symptoms are urgent and require a visit to the vet.
2. Occasional vomiting, especially with cats, isn’t too out of the ordinary. However, if your pets are vomiting or having diarrhea multiple times a day, feeling lethargic, and don’t have much of an appetite, it’s time to see the vet. These symptoms could be signaling gastrointestinal illnesses or parasite infections that include hookworms, roundworms, whipworms, or giardia. Blood in their stool or vomit could also indicate a foreign object in the stomach.
3. Pets experiencing stiffness, lameness, or difficulty rising could be suffering from hip or spine arthritis, disc disease, ruptured ligaments, or hip dysplasia — all of which need attention and treatment from their vet.
5. According to Dr. Karen Becker, “If the white area of your dog’s eye turns bright red, it’s a sign of inflammation or infection that signals one of several diseases. Certain disorders of the eye can lead to blindness, so any significant change in the appearance of your dog’s eyes should be investigated.”
6. Hair loss or itchy skin and ears could mean anything from fleas, ticks, mange mites and ear mites to endocrine problems, staph infections, fungal or yeast infections. Your vet can identify and work to treat the cause.
9. Unexplained weight loss could be caused by metabolic disorders, neuromuscular diseases, cancer, and heart disease. If your pet loses more than 10 percent of their body weight, take them to the vet.
10. Restlessness doesn’t seem like a big deal, but it could be a sign that your pets aren’t feeling quite themselves. If you notice your dog or cat pacing, shaking, looking anxious or whining, a visit to the vet can identify the issue.
Read more: http://www.viralnova.com/pet-warning-signs/
1. Drink Water
Fucking duh. Water is the universally accepted hangover cure, and as such, it does wonders for your headaches, dehydration, and any post-drinking digestion issues. If you’ve been getting your fluids from sketchy punch and vodka sodas all weekend, your body is in desperate need of water, so start chugging. Water has been proven to cure hangovers since ancient times (I assume), and if you forgot to drink some before going to bed, it’s not too late to start now. If you’re an overachiever, add some lemon and ginger to help soothe your stomach and get your metabolism moving again. If it keeps Kourtney Kardashian skinny after three births, chances are it’ll help you out after this weekend.
2. Throw Out The Candy
If you woke up this morning with candy corn in your bed, you’ve overdone it on the Halloween candy, and it’s not the time to store the extras in your desk drawer or buy fun sized Twix bars on sale at CVS. There’s a reason adults don’t go trick-or-treating, and it’s not because we have better things to do. Well, it sort of is, but it’s MOSTLY because we don’t have the metabolism we had at age eight. Sorry. Just get rid of your candy so you won’t be tempted to eat it all week. You can even offer it to your neighbor as a peace treaty for all the times they’ve told you to keep the noise down. Works like a charm.
3. Get Some Sleep
This tip seems pretty obvious, but for some reason people think their bodies won’t mind if they run on less than five hours of sleep for like, two weeks straight. If you got no sleep this weekend, you owe it to your body to put down the Red Bull (yes, and the Adderall) and rest up, even if that means calling in for a sick day, or worse—cancelling happy hour plans. When your body is deprived of sleep, not only are you lacking energy, but your brain tries to compensate by telling you you’re hungry, so you end up craving junk food and chocolate all day. Oh, and coffee doesn’t count. Get some sleep.
4. Eat Omega-3’s
We don’t usually believe in the power of superfoods or magical ingredients, but omega-3’s are the shit. End of story. A lot of people take omega-3 supplements to help with weight loss and skin care, but you can get enough of them just by eating the right foods. Things like salmon, walnuts, and flax seeds are all packed with omega-3’s, and you’ll notice a difference within a few days of eating them. Omega-3’s help fight inflammation, protect your body from viruses, and even help prevent breakouts. If you’re feeling gross from your weekend drinking bender, stop Googling SkinnyTeas and start making some salmon. You’ll thank us.
5. Limit Dairy Intake
As much as we love our daily Sweetgreen salad with extra feta, try to eliminate dairy from your diet as much as you can, at least for the next few days. If you tend to feel bloated from drinking and your skin is prone to breakouts, eating a lot of dairy will only make those symptoms worse. To make your body feel and look better after this weekend, cut out the dairy, and try to stick to whole grains, lean protein sources, and healthy fats (see: the salmon argument). You might not be straight-up lactose intolerant, but most people have trouble digesting dairy like other foods, so you might as well make things easier on your body right now and just avoid.
6. Sweat That Shit Out
And finally, the advice that no one wants to hear, but seems pretty inevitable. If you feel like shit after one too many tequila shots, you can chug a Poland Spring bottle and eat a slice of whole grain toast, but there’s nothing better for your body than breaking a sweat. You might feel nauseous and slightly suicidal, but take an Advil, put on your sports bra, and suck it up. (Words I live by tbh.) Book a bike, go on a run, sign up for yoga—we don’t care. Just do a workout that will allow your body to sweat out the toxins it’s accumulated over the weekend. It’ll probably suck and you’ll want to cry or vomit (or both), but you’ll end up feeling and looking so much better. Obviously not right away, but like, maybe after a shower.
“I don’t have the words and I don’t think any of us do,” Linkin Park’s pianist and vocalist Mike Shinoda told the sold out crowd at the Hollywood Bowl on Friday night.
He didn’t need them. The band, joined by a laundry list of famous friends, orchestrated a truly beautiful and cathartic tribute concert that was much more powerful than words. They celebrated the life of the band’s singer, Chester Bennington, who died by suicide in July.
Helping fill the stage were members of popular bands who had their heyday around the turn of the century like Blink182, Sum 41, Yellowcard, Bush, System of a Down, Avenged Sevenfold, No Doubt, and many, many more. Limited by no specific genre or style, it felt like the entire industry came together to support the band and honor the life of their friend. The musicians helped sing some of Bennington’s parts or filled in on guitar in Linkin Park’s songs, while others performed their own tributes.
Fans’ countless crying faces were projected onto screens surrounding the stage, but the event didn’t feel like a funeral — this was a celebration. Linkin Park’s songs are dark and emotionally driven, adding a deep layer of intimacy between the band and its fans. It was hard not to choke up hearing the crowd sing powerful lyrics like “In the end, it doesn’t even matter,” and “Who cares if one more light goes out in the sky of a million stars?”
Every song, in some way, felt related to Bennington’s tragic death and that much more meaningful.
Shinoda had once shared the role of band frontman with Bennington — on this night the responsibility was his alone. He proved he was up to the task, acting with professionalism and genuine love for both the music and Linkin Park’s fans. A band performing without a lead singer may sound impossible — Shinoda called the concert one of the “hardest things I think we’ve ever decided to do.” In honor of Bennington, though, Linkin Park made it work.
After a few songs to kick things off, the stage went dark and a single microphone stand covered in greenery was illuminated at the center of the stage. No one sang into the mic as the band performed “Numb,” one of Linkin Park’s most popular songs off the band’s 2003 album Meteora.
After a few bars, the crowd came to the realization that nobody was going to step out from the back of the stage to sing this one for Bennington. It was on the fans to fill the void. The audience became a little closer with that knowledge, tension eased. Those who knew the words sang a little bit louder. The emotional moment appears in the video below, complete with chants of “Chester! Chester! Chester!” to close out the song.
While the music alone spoke volumes, musicians also used the stage to advocate for mental health awareness, which received praise and cheers from the crowd of over 18,000.
“There’s been a lot of vilification of people with depression, and addiction, and being troubled, and being in the public eye, and being made fun of for the challenges that we as a huge community of people with notoriety have gone through. And it’s an extremely, isolating, challenging journey to go through,” Alanis Morissette said to the crowd as she introduced the song “Rest” off her upcoming album. “And so, for me, I just want to offer empathy to all people in the public eye. To all of you here tonight, to everyone around the planet who’s grieving.”
The crowd roared for Morissette, who’s probably one of the last people you’d expect to perform at a Linkin Park concert. There was no ego that night. Nobody scoffed at the mix of genres or musical backgrounds the diverse lineup presented. The crowd may have been filled with rockers, but none of that seemed to matter.
Later in the evening, Bennington’s microphone made another appearance as Talinda Ann Bentley, Chester’s wife, took the stage to thank the Linkin Park family, the performers, and crowd. She introduced a new mental health resource, called 320 in collaboration with Change Direction, in honor of her husband.
“It is time to recognize that mental health is as important as our physical health,” Bentley said to the crowd. “It is my mission to make it easier to have access to mental health resources … Together we will build a recourse, not only for those suffering emotionally, but also for friends, and family members, and medical practitioners, who are seeking answers to questions about mental health, illness, and addiction, so they can best support people in their lives.”
Bentley announced there were mental health professionals from Change Direction available at the show for anyone seeking help.
“Fuck depression, let’s make Chester proud,” Bentley said before exiting the stage.
“Fuck depression, let’s make Chester proud.”
While the show could have been somber, it was packed with energetic and uplifting performances, including one from Bennington himself. Using footage and audio from a performance from Linkin Park at the Hollywood Bowl in September 2014, the band played “New Divide” with Bennington at the helm. If I closed my eyes, it felt like Bennington was on stage, singing along with the crowd packed with devoted fans. The song, for a brief moment, brought Bennington back to life to perform one last time.
As the masses exited the venue they were greeted with a memorial wall, where they wrote tributes and messages to Bennington. The vibe was positive and people were in good spirits despite being stuck in an endless line of people slowly trying to exit the massive venue.
“I thought it was wonderful. I thought it was beautiful,” longtime fan Angela Schippers, 35, of Moreno Valley, California, said about the concert after signing the wall.
“I just thanked Chester for all the beautiful music that inspired everyone,” she said.
“It was so good, so fun. I go to a lot of concerts [and this was] one of the best concerts I’ve ever been to. And the thing is, I don’t know all their music,” Jason Wisch, a Los Angeles native, admitted. “It was poetic.”
Before ending the show, Shinoda touched on a topic that was on every fan’s mind: What will happen to the beloved band now that its lead singer is gone?
“You guys, we don’t know where we’re going from here, we certainly appreciate your support as we get there … most importantly, keep Chester in your hearts and make Chester proud,” he said.
This was so much more than a concert, or a memorial for a dear friend — it was proof that music can heal and bring people together for good. There’s no doubt: Bennington would have been proud of what he saw on stage on Friday. Proud of his friends, proud of his bandmates, proud of his family, and most importantly, proud of his fans.